What Is Your Fear of Discomfort Costing You and Your Kids?
You want to be a patient, present mother. But when your child struggles, someone is disappointed in you, or things don’t go according to plan, your anxiety takes over. What if your need to prevent discomfort is keeping you from the life and relationships you want? Discover how learning to tolerate discomfort can change the way you experience motherhood and help your children develop confidence in themselves.
What Is Your Anxiety Costing Your Children?
You love your children more than anything. But what happens when your anxiety, overwhelm, or anger begins affecting the very relationship you’re working so hard to protect? Discover how maternal anxiety influences your child’s emotional development, why knowing better doesn’t always mean doing better, and how you can begin changing the patterns that keep you stuck.
When Helping Gets in the Way of Connection
What happens when our desire to help someone actually gets in the way of connection? I’ve been asking myself this question in my work as a coach and in my relationships with my two daughters. And what I’m discovering is changing how I think about helping, listening, and the kind of intelligence we need to stay connected when things feel uncomfortable.
I Know What I Should Do, So Why Don’t I Do It?
You know what you want to do differently. Set the boundary. Speak up. Stop over-explaining. Stay calm when your child is upset. So why is it so hard to actually do it? The answer may have less to do with knowing what to do and more to do with what your nervous system believes is at risk when you do it.
What Conditions Allow Mothers and Children to Thrive When Mothers Work?
Working does not prevent you from building a secure, deeply connected relationship with your child. But that doesn’t mean time, childcare, parental leave, or the conditions families live within are irrelevant. Let’s move beyond asking whether mothers should work and ask a better question: What helps mothers and children thrive when they do?
I Hated That My Mom Worked. Then I Became a Working Mom.
As a child, I wished my mom would stop working. As an adult, I became enormously proud of the life she built. Then I became a working mother myself. This is the complicated truth I wish more mothers heard: your child can sometimes wish you were home and still feel deeply loved, safe, and connected to you.
What Has to Give? When You Love Your Kids and the Work You’re Here to Do
You love your kids deeply. You also have work, ideas, and ambitions that matter to you. When those things compete, it can feel like something has to give. But what if the goal isn’t perfect balance? Here’s a different way to think about motherhood, ambition, guilt, and the tradeoffs that come with building a full life.
I Don’t Need Therapy. So Why Does Motherhood Still Feel So Hard?
You’re functioning. You love your kids. You may even know a tremendous amount about parenting and yourself. So why can motherhood still feel so hard? Not every struggle in motherhood is a mental health disorder. Sometimes you don’t need treatment. You need support developing the capacity to stay connected to yourself and your child when things are uncertain, uncomfortable, or impossible to fix.
When Everything Feels Important, How Do You Make Room for What You Actually Need?
You know what would help: more sleep, regular meals, movement, support, maybe even ten quiet minutes to yourself. So why is it so hard to actually make room for any of it? The problem may have less to do with time management and more to do with what your overloaded nervous system has learned to treat as urgent.
When the Moment Feels Impossible, Make the Moment Smaller
A crying baby, a hard moment with your child, or one piece of critical feedback can quickly become something much bigger in your mind. Learn how making the moment smaller can interrupt anxiety and overthinking, help your nervous system settle, and bring you back to what is actually happening right now.
Working Didn’t Keep Me From Building Secure Attachment With My Kids
Can you work, spend time away from your child, and still build a deeply connected, secure relationship? Secure attachment was never about being physically present every moment. It’s built through the quality of the relationship—including how we connect, separate, make mistakes, repair, and come back together.
You Can Love Your Child Deeply and Still Struggle to Stay Connected
You can love your child deeply and still struggle to stay connected when they’re upset. For many high-achieving mothers, the skills that have helped them succeed—anticipating, solving, planning and taking action—can make the emotional uncertainty of motherhood surprisingly hard. Here’s why connection requires a different set of capacities, and how those capacities can be learned.
Why You’re Always Rushing and Why Slowing Down Might Actually Save You Time
If you’re constantly telling your kids to hurry, rushing may have less to do with time than you think. Here’s what happens when time pressure becomes nervous system pressure—and how learning to slow the urgency can actually help you function better, connect more deeply with your kids, and enjoy more of the life you’re working so hard to manage.
Maternal Mental Health Is Having a Moment. What Is This Moment Asking Us to Pay Attention To?
Maternal mental health is having a moment. But the conversation needs to extend far beyond crisis. From better-trained clinicians and coordinated care to postpartum anxiety, intrusive thoughts, identity, uncertainty, and the conditions in which we ask women to mother, here are seven places I believe we need to pay closer attention.