“Here’s a Trick. Stop complaining.” If you are still reading, you are either so pissed about that statement that you want to see what other insulting things might spill out of my writing, or you are so shocked that I would advocate for such a thing that you want to see if I have actually gone off the deep end.

You know that feeling that you get when everything just feels so hard? When it is difficult to feel the sun on your face? When there seems to be no escape from the struggle?

If Wonder Woman was a mother, you would find cheerios in her hair underneath her perfect curls and raisons in her fingernails underneath her red nail polish.

This morning I have something special for you. Someone else’s voice. A mom’s voice. A mom just like you who has struggled and worked and shifted and grown.

Fall has fallen. We are well into the season, folks. Of change. The light changes. The temperature changes. The leaves and flowers and last pieces of summer-ness change.

One of the first things that any therapist or research psychologist will tell you is that feelings are wise. They will also they tell you that denying them, stuffing them down, or trying to change them, will backfire. Every time. And then they will remind you that the key to mental health is learning how to feel those emotions fully, pleasant or unpleasant, because feelings or emotions (often described as energy-in-motion) move.

This month’s mom-to-mom blog post is generously written by Sarha Cahoon, mom, and founder of love for lily, a nonprofit that supports parents through NICU experiences.

I wonder how many of you can empathize with this particular Mack Truck. You have been cruising about in your life. You are an adult and have finally found a way to feel in control of your identity and you are feeling pretty darn good about yourself.